Professional What??

This post is going to be a little bit different. Instead of educating you on worldwide problems or things that are debated on a regular basis, I am going to discuss my job and educate you on what I do.

You may or may not already know this, but I am a Certified Nursing Assistant. You may also hear me called a “professional butt wiper,” but there is so much more to it.

I work in a Nursing Home and take care of 19 residents, all with different medical diagnoses and illnesses. Some have Alzheimer’s, some have cancer, some have had falls at home and they have caused them not to be able to live alone anymore. But every one of them has something in common; they are all loved by their caregivers. I help them wake up in the morning, brush their teeth, get them dressed, brush their hair, use the restroom, make sure they are properly bathed, help them eat, and anything else they may need in between. Besides helping them with things that we all do daily with no help at all, I support them emotionally. Many of my residents wonder why they need to be where they are, why their family never comes to see them, why they hurt all the time, and why they can’t just go home. It’s not easy hearing them say these things. It’s hard to explain the answers to their questions to them in a way that they will understand, and sometimes they just have to cry it out. Sometimes I’ll cry it out with them even.

I want to share an experience I had recently with a friend. For his privacy, I will call him John. There were many of my other friends there, but John and I were not seeing eye to eye this night. I am not sure how my job got brought into the argument, but it did. John said to me, “And what do you do for a job? Wipe old people’s butts?” This offended me, and I said some things I will not repeat, but some things I will repeat. I replied, “I may wipe their butts when they need help, but I also hold many of their hands while they take their last breath, give them a shoulder to cry on when they need it, help them better understand their condition, all while keeping it together so they don’t suspect something else. I’d like to see you do that everyday!” It is not easy watching someone decline. Some may think it is easier because you don’t really know the person, but that’s the thing they don’t understand. I know all of my residents and I have a connection with each of them. I have so many days that consist of smiling and laughing with my residents at lunch, making jokes and asking questions about their earlier days. I could tell you their jobs, where they lived, their spouse and children’s names as well as what they do for jobs, almost anything! I love them all.

My residents are family to me, and I am family to them. I see them on their worst days and on their best days. I see them when they’re in great health and I see them when they are in poor health. It may seem like all I do is wipe their butts, but there is so much more to it that many people don’t see or know about unless they are there. It takes a special person to do what I do, and I am damn proud to be a Certified Nursing Assistant.

Blog Tour #2

For my second blog tour, I am going to take you to another classmates page. Her name is Olivia, and she chose to write about different ways to cope with anxiety. As someone who struggles with this daily, it was nice to read her blog and be able to relate to some of the things she said. Click on the link below to view her whole blog page and read all of her posts about coping with stress!

Olivia’s Blog

Olivia created a new blog for her final project, so you won’t be able to see any of the work she did previously this semester, but trust me when I say that she is a great writer! She has made several posts about her experiences with anxiety, how she copes, and some hard days she has had. Anxiety is not an easy thing to share with people, so seeing her write about it was really inspiring.

I want to take you to the post Olivia made on November 17, 2018 titled What Having Anxiety Feels Like… It is a shorter post with a lot of meaning. She describes what it is like for her to deal with anxiety everyday. She explains that people think hurting means you need to be in a cast with a broken bone, you’re bleeding out, or walking with a limp. But sometimes the most painful demons are the ones on the inside that no one can see. Her anxiety feels like FIRE. She uses the quick response of “I’m fine” to cover up her emotions that are running wild inside her mind. This post is inspiring to me.

A post Olivia made on November 29, 2018 titled A hard day. talks about a day that she had been having. A hard day for her. She explains that things have been hard for her lately, and things that seem so normal for others cause her to have a severe reaction. She wonders what it would be like to live without anxiety, but it’s hard for her to even imagine because she has no idea. She describes how her days go, and how she feels like she focuses on one thing that causes anxiety, and as soon as that one thing is over, she is worrying about when and where her next anxiety attack will strike.

“Through this moment I had, it was horrible but I knew that the next day it would dissolve. Don’t focus on the next attack. Focus on the moment. Focus more on the days that are good. You will appreciate them more when you do that” 

Olivia, you are brave for sharing your experience with anxiety. It isn’t easy, but you put it into words better than anyone could have. Describing something like anxiety can be hard because sometimes, you cannot put the way you’re feelings into words. Thank you for sharing your experiences and for allowing us to read about them. It is inspiring to read, and will hopefully show others that it isn’t something we need to hide.

Blog Tour #1

This week is going to be a little different than previous week. I am inviting you to come tour my classmates blog today. Her name is Hannah, and for the last few weeks, she has been writing about police officers. Click on the link below to view her whole blog, it’s pretty neat.

Hannah’s Blog

Anyways, on her blog, she shows a lot of interest in the police force. I may be wrong, but I am going to guess that Hannah is going to school for law enforcement and is striving to be a police officer in the near future.

Since we started the final project, Hannah has shared a couple different stories about police officers and what has happened to them while being a police officer. The post that Hannah made on November 26, 2018 really tore my heart right out of my chest. It is titled From Dinner to Dead on Hannah’s blog. An officer, who had been with San Diego Police Department for only four years and was only 36 years old, had been out for his shift one night. He and a boy from the neighbor hood had gone to McDonalds for supper, and then drove about six blocks away to park and eat their food. While sitting in the car, a man drove by and shot the officer. He died the next day. The man was later identified and punished properly. Its stories like these that really make me wonder. Police officers put their lives at risk to save others lives, and a random act of violence like this towards a police officer is uncalled for. I mean, how many people can really say that they would take a job as a police officer? I could never do it!

Another post that I wanted to share was made also made on November 26, 2018 and is titled Things Police Officers Want You To Know. Here Hannah talks about things that he found on an article that police officers want civilians to know. The two that I thought were most important were:

  1. The news can be misleading, and
  2. We want to get to know you.

These are things people really need to realize when coming across a police officer. Not everything you see on the news is real, and they really are great people. The want to get to know you so they can drive by you one day, wave, and really know who their waving to. They want to be people you can turn to when you’re lost and afraid. They don’t go out for their shift with the intentions of making people mad and hurting them. Ever.

Hannah, I wish you the best of luck in your career in the future. I’m sure you will make an amazing police officer. I know you are not a police officer yet, but thank you for making this sacrifice to keep other safe. Thank you for putting your life on the line for people you may not even know. You’re going to be great someday, I just know it. Good luck.

Personal Opinion on Abortion

In todays world, most people believe that if you are pro-choice, you are pro-abortion, but there is so much more to it. Being pro-choice simply means that supporters believe that women should have the right to choose conception, contraception, or abortion without the government inferring. I don’t think that abortion is necessarily a good thing and I believe that choosing this procedure should come after weighing out all other options of birth and adoption first, but it definitely needs to be considered more by pro-life believers. It is often necessary for both the mother’s health, as well as the better option for the child. Abortion is legal for many reasons and by making it illegal, we are putting so many women at risk.

I would like to share a story of a good friend from high school. For her privacy, I will not use her real name, and instead call her Sam. When Sam and I were at a summer camp out junior year, we were talking very deeply about several topics. One topic that came up was children. We were talking about the life we had always dreamed of since we were little girls. Sam shared a story with me that really just broke my heart in half. Before Sam and I were really good friends, she was with the man she thought she was going to marry. Sam and her boyfriend had always talked about marriage and children and what they would do if they had an unplanned pregnancy. Sam stated that she did not believe it would be right to being an unwanted child into the world, and it would be too hard for her to give a child she had been carrying for nine months to another family. Her boyfriend agreed. In the summer going into our junior year, Sam had missed her period. She had never missed her period before, so she was extremely nervous. She decided to take a pregnancy test, and sure enough, she was pregnant. She told her mom, dad, and boyfriend, and they all supported her decision of having an abortion, but they wanted her to reconsider adoption. Sam knew it wasn’t going to be easy for her, because she wanted the perfect family for her little one. It was proving to be more difficult than she and her family had thought. She know she could not support a child, nor could her parents help her support a child. She had her whole future of school planned out, and she didn’t think she would be able to follow through with it if she had a child. Her boyfriend was also away at college and he knew he couldn’t support a child either. They went ahead with the abortion. To this day, Sam believes she made the right decision for the sake of her and her future, as well as the better choice for her and the child.

Much like Sam, there are many women who go through this in their lives, although I am sure many of them have different experiences and reasons for having the procedure. For many women, it is not the fear of having a child, but rather the fear of being able to take care of it and give it support.

Do I think abortion is necessarily a good thing? No. But do I think it needs to remain legal because it is ultimately the mothers decision? Yes. This world needs to understand that it is the mothers choice to terminate the pregnancy and often times it is absolutely necessary. The lives and rights of the living citizens should come before those of an unborn child. The mother’s health, the cost, the disadvantages of adoption, and her personal situation all need to be taken into serious consideration when contemplating abortion. These factors often make it imperative, and nobody should take these rights away from women. Abortions are legal for very legit reasons, and it needs to stay this way.

Pro-Life vs. Pro-Choice

There are arguments for both sides of this battle. Being pro-choice means that you are an advocate for legalizing abortion. You believe that women should be allowed the right to choose what they feel is best for them, their life, and their child. Being pro-life means that are you an advocate for making abortions illegal. You believe that, no matter the circumstances, the baby should be chosen over all.

It doesn’t matter if you choose to be pro-life or pro-choice, but it is important to know what you are being an advocate for when you are choosing sides. It is important to be educated on both viewpoints so you are not advocating for something you may not see as right. Before you begin to debate and make arguments, make sure you know the facts.

Pro-Life Arguments

  1. Pro lifers believe that abortion is murder. The killing of an innocent human being is wrong, even if they are not yet born. By the US government, unborn babies are considered human being. The Unborn Victims of Violence Act states that under federal law, anybody intentionally killing or attempting to kill and unborn child should be punished.
  2. Life begins at conception, so unborn babies are human being with a right to human life. This individual has a fundamental right to life, which must be protected.
  3. Abortion is the killing of a human being, which defies the word of God. The Bible does not draw a distinction between fetuses and babies. By the time a baby is conceived, he or she is recognized by God, as demonstrated in Jeremiah 1:5.
  4. If a women becomes pregnant, they should accept the responsibility that comes with producing a child. People need to take responsibility for their actions and accept the consequences. The unborn baby should not be punished for the mistake made by the mother and father. If women are unprepared to care for a child, they should at least put them up for adoption.
  5. Abortion may lead to future medical problems for the mother. A study published by the peer-reviewed International Journal of Epidemiology estimated that about 15% of first-trimester miscarriages are attributed to a prior history of induced abortion, and stated that “Induced abortion by vacuum aspiration is associated with an increased risk of first-trimester miscarriage in the subsequent pregnancy.

Pro-Choice Arguments

  1. The US Supreme Court has declared abortion to be a “fundamental right” guaranteed by the US Constitution. The landmark abortion case Roe v. Wade, decided on Jan. 22, 1973 in favor of abortion right, remains the law of the land. The 7-2 decision stated that the Constitution gives a “guarantee of certain areas or zones of privacy,” and that “This right of privacy… is broad enough to encompass a woman’s decision weather or not to terminate her pregnancy.”
  2. Reproductive choice empowers women by giving them control over their own bodies. The choice over when and whether to have children is central to a woman’s independence and ability to determine her future.
  3. Access to legal, professionally-performed abortions reduces maternal injury and death caused by unsafe, illegal abortions. It was stated that before abortion was legalized, women would frequently try to induce abortions by using coat hangers, knitting needles, or radiator flush, or by going to unsafe “back-alley” abortionists. In 1972, there were 39 maternal deaths from illegal abortions.
  4. Women who receive abortions are less likely to suffer mental health problems than women denied abortions. A peer-reviewed study comparing the mental health f women who received abortions to women denied abortions found that women who were denied abortions “felt more regret and anger” and “less relief and happiness” than women who had abortions. The same study also found that 95% of women who received abortions “felt it was the right decision” a week after the procedure.
  5. Abortion gives pregnant women the option to choose not to bring fetuses with profound abnormalities to full term. Some fetuses have such severe disorders that death is guaranteed before or shortly after birth. It would be cruel to force a women to carry fetuses with fatal congenital defects to term. Many couples don’t have the resources, don’t have the emotional stamina, don’t have the family support to raise a child with profound abnormalities, such as Down syndrome.

No matter who you side with, or what you see to be right, that’s your decision. Both views have good points, and they are taking into account either fighting for the mothers rights, or giving an unborn child a voice when they otherwise cannot speak for themselves. There will always be the cases of incest, rape, or health issues that will come into play on deciding if abortion is the better option. Until ever woman is on contraceptives, there are no more rapes, or there are no more incidents of incest, there will always be unwanted pregnancies that exist. Hopefully our society as a whole can eventually move towards eliminating the need for abortions all together.


What is Abortion?

What is Abortion?

The definition of abortion is the deliberate termination of a human pregnancy, most often preformed during the first 28 weeks of pregnancy. An abortion can also occur spontaneously, and this is referred to as a miscarriage. When deliberate steps are taken to terminate the pregnancy, it is called an induced abortion, or less frequently an “induced miscarriage.

Let’s Discuss “Why”

There are many people that look at abortion as selfish, but do they even know why that mother chose to terminate her pregnancy?

There are reasons why women have abortions. According to Guttmacher Institute, researchers found that the main reasons women cited for ending pregnancies were the same in both 2004 and 1987 surveys. Their reasons included:

  • Having a baby would dramatically interfere with their education or work
  • Their ability to care for their dependents would be hindered
  • They are unable to afford a baby at the time
  • Health related reasons
  • Feeling as if they had no other choice
  • Did not want to be a single parent/had relationship problems
  • Not mature enough to raise a child
  • Parents wanted them to
  • Wanted baby to have a better life than she could provide
  • Baby is unwanted and she does not want to place baby for adoption

Many think that women’s reasons for abortion center around using it simply for a method of birth control. A common perception is that abortion is used for convenience and as an “easy why out.” This is not the case for many women. Most women faced with this decision do not take it lightly. Women who have had an abortion say is it not the easy way out. Its a very painful and difficult decision she makes in consideration of what is the right things to do by the child. This decision will be with her for the rest of her life.

A common judgement about women with an unplanned pregnancy is that she was irresponsible and not using birth control. However, half of all unintended pregnancies occur while women are using birth control. For some, abortion can be again morality or religious view, yet not for others.

Shedding light on women’s reasons for seeking abortions can help inform public opinion and hopefully help prevent or correct misperceptions. Understanding the complexity of this decision and the reasons why a women chooses to exercise her choice may open the doorway for compassion and understanding for women facing this painful situation.

Facts About Abortion

I don’t want to throw a bunch of random facts at your face, but I want to leave these here to help you have a better understanding on the topic and maybe better understand why this needs to be an option for ALL women.

  • The US Supreme Court has declared abortion to be a “fundamental right” guaranteed by the US Constitution.
  • Reproductive choice empowers women by giving them control over their own bodies,
  • Modern abortion procedures are safe and do not cause lasting health issues such as cancer and infertility.
  • Women who receive abortions are less likely to suffer mental health problems than women denied abortions.
  • Abortion gives women the option to choose not to bring fetuses with profound abnormalities to full term.
  • Reproductive choice protects women from financial disadvantage.
  • A baby should not have to come into the world unwanted.
  • 14,000 women have abortions following rape or incest.
  • The risk of death associated with childbirth is about 10 times as high as that associated with abortion.

Like I stated when I began this topic, I do not want this to become a debate. Because I am pro-choice, my topic will be centered around pro-choice data and viewpoints. Please don’t feel offended by any of this. I believe every women should be given the freedom when it comes to her reproductive decisions.


Introduction to the Talk on Abortion

This is a touchy subject that I know everyone has different opinions on. I am not here to start a debate about this topic, nor am I here to bash anyones opinion. Everyone is entitled to believe that they see fit for themselves. I am only here to educate people who may not know much about this specific topic. I also want to point out that I am pro-choice. I believe it should be left up to the women in the situation, because after all, it is her body and she knows what is going to be best. I don’t believe that women should have an abortion just because they don’t want the child, but I do believe that if the mother sees abortion as the best option, maybe in the case of saving her own life, then it is okay.

Abortion has been a debated topic for as long as I can remember. There are the people who believe it is 100% not okay, the pro-lifers. There are other who believe that it should be left up to the women, and what she chooses to do is 100% okay, the pro-choicers. No matter where you side with the topic, someone is always going to tell you you’re wrong.

I came across a blog while doing some research on abortion called Abortion Rights Campaign. It is an alliance between Irish and Northern Irish pro-choice groups. They published an article on November 20, 2018 titled Let’s Talk About: Privacy and Abortion. (Click the link to read the whole article. It will also be tagged below.)

As many of you know, there has always been debates on whether or not we have access to medical abortions. The Abortion Rights Campaign (ARC) believes that, like any other medical procedure, abortion is a private matter between the person who is pregnant, their medical provider, and whomever they choose to tell. They also believe that abortion should be a free, safe, and legal procedure. Pregnant people deserve compassionate healthcare and support, no matter what their reason is for having an abortion.

This article talks about cases where women have been deliberately manipulated and their privacy was invaded. They also talked about cases where women have been made to jump over hurdles to be able to access abortion, but the main point of this article was to tell readers that women should be allowed access to private medical abortions without having their privacy invaded and without being told that they are not making the right choice. Most of the cases where women are being manipulated and their privacy is being invaded happened in Ireland, but keep in mind that this blog is from a group of Irish people who are pro-choice.

The group of Irish pro-choices stated that in order to ensure access to safe abortion involves taking a stand against anti-choice harassment and intimidation outside of the medical facilities. It is important to them that the pregnant women seeking abortion are not exposed for their decision.

This blog is from people who live in Ireland, but that doesn’t mean that these things are not happening here in the United States. There has been and probably always will be a battle about whether abortion should be legal or illegal. It is important that you stand up for what you believe in. Let your voice be heard people! You may think your opinion counts for nothing, but your opinion could be the difference between the battle.

(Please do not comment on this post with your opinion. I do care what you have to say, but I am not here to start a debate. Simply here to educate, and if you feel offended, it will not hurt my feelings if you choose not to continue reading.)